Re-thinking the situation

During a discussion last night with his daughter on the phone, I said "He is acting just like he did when his anti depressants stopped working in 2012."

Bingo, the light went on.  Today is day 6 of Radiation and day 2 of Chemotherapy.

Both combinations are sapping his strength which he never imagined possible.  
Major Depression along with PTSD is going to make this 6 week long treatment much more difficult.

His condition will generally deteriorate unless I get the proper help by the VA.

A major blow to his mental health was when his old trusted doctor moved to New Zealand and his new doctor after one meeting decided to move onto another job.

He feels abandoned by his mental health doctors.  I was so concentrated on the Radiation and Chemo treatments that I was missing part of the puzzle.

Communication with Rich has dwindled with me. I only seem to be trying to get him to eat or take his medicines at the right times.

With me struggling with the farm and work issues, I failed to see the sudden total withdrawal from life.  His attitude is getting more and more withdrawn ... now that I've opened my eyes and mind, I can see that.

Let us hope that today's long visit bring some much needed help, hope, and understanding.